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Dispelling the Myths about Male Multiple Orgasm and Female Multiple Orgasm by Jack Johnston, M.A. (Psychology).

©Copyright 2003 by J & J Collaborations, Inc. All rights reserved. Used by permission.

There are a number of myths about multiple orgasm that we will be addressing at this website. Among them are:

MYTH #1a: Women are genetically designed to have as many orgasms as they want, while men are genetically designed to have only one or very few at any one time.

 

 

MYTH #1b: Men aren't physiologically capable of experiencing "true" multiple orgasms like women can...instead, all they can hope for is to last a little longer by learning to "hover" just this side of their ejaculatory "Point of No Return". (The Point of No Return is when the ejaculation reflex can no longer be prevented, similar to the Point of No Return you feel when you can no longer prevent a sneeze from happening.)

Note: The Internet is rife with rationalizations to support this myth, ranging from: "That's just the way it is, and we have to accept it," through "It's God's Will," to "It's Nature's way of controlling population," and "It's Nature's way of keeping the man around the woman a little longer, wanting 'more'."

MYTH #2: For men, "orgasm" and "ejaculation" refer to exactly the same process and can be used interchangeably.

Since most people - men and women alike - have been led by contemporary culture to believe this myth, they also believe that the only way for a man to experience some sort of orgasm repeatedly is for him to use some type of ejaculation control method to try and block the ejaculation reflex at the last moment before he feels that ejaculatory Point of No Return (PONR).

Until now, this strategy of ejaculation prevention at the last moment has been the strategy of choice for most men, since after ejaculation they almost always experience a "refractory period," an erotic "down time" when they feel very little or no erotic energy, have very low erotic responsiveness to any attempts at further stimulation, and have little or no ability to have an erection (See myth #4).

An important corollary to myth #2: Because for men orgasm is believed to be inseparably linked to ejaculation, the mistaken assumption is made that there is no way a man could possibly experience more intense erotic feeling than he does when he ejaculates.

MYTH #3: Since people generally believe that male orgasm and ejaculation are the same process, myth #3 is that reaching orgasm/ejaculation requires quite a lot of mostly continuous stimulation. This myth uses myth #2 as a springboard.

The "continuous stimulation" approach is also the method that women frequently learn, which they often say they have to use to "reach" for their orgasm. Most men have learned this continuous stimulation process when they first learned to masturbate to ejaculation, and, at least subconsciously, have accepted myth #3 as fact.

MYTH #4: A man must always have an erection to experience orgasm. This myth is linked especially to myth #2, that orgasm and ejaculation are basically two aspects of one "indivisible" process.

Since it is usually true that a man needs an erection to experience ejaculation (one notable exception being in certain cases of premature ejaculation, where the penis may not be fully erect at the moment of emission), it naturally follows from the other myths that he will also "need" an erection in order to experience orgasm. But this is also a myth.

There are a number of others, but let's start by replacing these four myths with sex facts:

FACT #1a: Although there is a good deal of research showing that frequency of male ejaculation (i.e. the automatic emission of seminal fluid) has certain physical limitations due to what is referred to as the "refractory" (i.e. "recharging") period experienced by most (although not all) men, there is to date apparently no research supporting the idea that male orgasm is limited in such a way, except when linked with ejaculation.

As multiples.com Forum poster "Erty" noted recently:

"I woke up at 01.00 o'clock and felt very pleased, so I did the Key Sound (a component of the Multiple Orgasm Trigger™ protocol) in my imagination, and waited for that inbreath, when it came, I really relaxed and did a new Key Sound (as an answer to the inbreath), and now for the first time I felt I was on the right way.

"It escalated the feeling (i.e. the use of the Key Sound amplified arousal), and very nice echoes came ("echoes" refers to automatic waves of pleasure), I was thinking: 'Just relax and let it happen.' So I did, and at 01.11 came my first orgasm, without ejaculation, it came in waves and kept on for exactly 15 minutes.

"I was very pleased, and fell asleep, woke up about one hour later and repeated the sequence, this time from 02.49 until 03.09 (i.e. 20 minutes), just a little weaker, but still very enjoyable. I did one session more this night, not so strong this time, but still! I have been thinking of it all day long, and I'm still feeling the nice feelings." --Erty

FACT #1b: When considering orgasm (i.e. the phenomenon of peaks of intense erotic pleasure) apart from ejaculation, the available data regarding the development of neural pathways in the body while still in the womb suggests that men and women have much more in common than we've been led to believe.

In fact, for the first two months (eight weeks) of a child's development in the womb, both the neurological and proto-genital characteristics of all fetuses, regardless of ultimate gender, are virtually indistinguishable.

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"Doc-S," (who happens to be an M.D.) is one of the "regulars" at the website's Live Forum where men and women learn to enjoy multiple orgasm without requiring male ejaculation control methods. Regarding the similarities of Central Nervous System development and proto-genital characteristics, Doc-S recently posted:

"All human genitalia develop from the same embryonic tissue. At eight weeks gestation the physical parts are almost identical, appearing primarily female at this point. There is a large glans at the superior aspect of the tissue. This becomes the clitoris in females (shrinking and becoming surrounded by the labia) and becomes the glans penis in men.

"Below this there is an open vertical urethral fold and urogenital groove, surrounded by a lateral buttress. Below the urethral groove is the anal tubercle. In females these tissues do not change much throughout gestation.

"The urethral fold and groove widen and flatten slightly to form the inner labia and opening to the vagina. In men these tissues fuse from bottom to top forming the urethra and the shaft of the penis (the buttress). On each side of the urethral folds are round bodies of tissue called labio-scrotal swellings.

"In women these flatten and spread to form the labia majora. In men these buttresses fuse in the midline, and widen, creating the scrotum, maintaining a canal into the peritoneum (the inguinal canal) through which the testes can descend. Even the testes and ovaries arise from identical undifferentiated gonadal tissue. We are made of the same stuff." The driving force in transforming these mostly female tissues into male genitalia is the presence of functional, hormone secreting, testes.

"In the absence of testicular hormones the fetus will develop female (external) genitalia. There are, of course, many factors that can lead to a disruption in this process (androgen insensitivity, congenital adrenal hyperplasia, androgen maternal tumors, etc.) and may result in a baby being born with ambiguous genitalia

"Although the culturally-based stimuli that result in a state of arousal in women and men are often quite different, the physiological reactions to arousal are similar. There is a localized (and generalized) relaxation of vascular smooth muscles resulting in an increase in blood flow to the genitalia. This generally results in increased vaginal lubrication, and tissue swelling and reddening, in females, and often though not always may result in erection in males.

"Throughout the full spectrum of gender, there tends to be an increase in tactile sensitivity associated with increased blood flow. As erotic stimulation is transmitted to the brain via sensory neurons, the autonomic centers of the brain (the limbic system, the hypothalamus) begin to arouse as well, entering into a peripheral-to-central-to-peripheral nervous system feedback loop." --Doctor-S

COMMENTS:

In other words, the nerves, the neural pathways, etc. are essentially the same in men and women, so it makes sense that we should have similar orgasmic - including multi-orgasmic - capacity.

Note that by the eighth week, most of the Central Nervous System ("CNS") is already developed in both sexes, while testosterone secretion only begins at that time, so that the more gender-specific characteristics do not begin to become evident until several weeks later.

Since orgasm (as distinct from ejaculation) in both men and women is primarily an experience of spontaneous rushes of pleasurable feeling, and since the CNS is the body's primary conduit or "wiring system" for conveying this energy throughout the body and appears to be mostly similar regardless of gender, it follows that orgasmic capacity, including multi-orgasmic capacity, may be far more similar in men and women than we have been led to believe.

For example, "Pan," a multiples.com website regular who with his wife has learned this new way of enjoying true multiple orgasms, states in a recent Forum post:

"When my wife and I are in 'the (multi-orgasmic) Zone' together, there's very little distinction between 'my orgasms,' and 'her orgasms'. It becomes a time of 'our orgasms'. I can only say that this seems to be the result of our energies 'blending' together into one... It seems to me that, under the right circumstances, there is less of a separation in these pleasures than what we have been brought up to believe."

Also notice that when Doctor-S referred to arousal, that is: the body's automatic response to stimulation, he stated that people along the full spectrum of gender experience arousal via a peripheral-to-central-to-peripheral nervous system feedback loop.

Thus for women to learn to enjoy multiple orgasms without the feeling of having to "reach" for their orgasms, and for men to learn to enjoy multiple orgasms without requiring ejaculation control or ejaculation blocking methods, the secret is to learn to boost arousal to multi-orgasmic levels by capitalizing on the "peripheral-to-central-to-peripheral nervous system feedback loop" of arousal to which Doctor-S refers.

The surprising breakthrough is, that these multi-orgasmically high levels of arousal are best learned by using surprisingly little (in fact, in the beginning, almost no) stimulation.

FACT #2: Male orgasm and ejaculation are not just two aspects of the same, indivisible process. The globally and historically pervasive assumption that they are is just that... an assumption, and the good news is that it's an erroneous assumption, i.e., a myth!

Orgasm and ejaculation are two distinct reflexes. They do not "have" to occur at the same time. A man does not "have to" experience ejaculation in order to experience orgasm, including multiple orgasm.

The assumption that ejaculation and orgasm are inextricable parts of the same reflex has largely been a result of the way men during puberty typically "figure out" how to experience sexual peaks and orgasmic release.

Most men learn this through masturbation... which is frequently shame-based, furtive, hurried, and involving a great deal of more or less continuous stimulation, often with relatively low levels of arousal, except arousal concentrated in the genital area.

Because men don't understand how arousal can be allowed to spread throughout one's body rather than just having it concentrated in the genital area, their resultant climaxes are often only minimally satisfying. Men commonly report feeling disappointed and thinking "Is that all there is?"

"mariachi," a poster at the multiples.com Forum recently was commenting on his sexual experience prior to beginning practice of the protocol:

"I will never forget the feeling I had when my girlfriend told me how amazing she felt after we had been physically intimate. Whereas I, after having an orgasm with ejaculation, I felt…well…empty."

In essence, our culture is over-stimulated and under-aroused.

Until now, men haven't understood how to truly separate arousal from ejaculation, but instead only to try to control or "block" the onset of the ejaculation reflex once it begins to happen, usually signaled by feelings of inevitability of ejaculation, known colloquially as the Point of No Return.

Thus men may tend to feel unfairly limited by the refractory period, the usually mandatory "downtime" that nearly always follows male ejaculation between sexual activity sessions.

As a result, all too often it's easy for men to slide into a spiral of despair, frustration, and resentment towards women, because they may never or nearly never feel really satisfied, and they experience a loss of hope of ever being able to be so.

"mariachi" continued in that same post cited above:

"Added to this I felt jealous of her capacity to feel so good. Even worse, I resented her for it."

By contrast, as multiples.com website regular "bilko" states:

"The Multiple Orgasm Trigger™ method has made ALL of the difference to my levels of feeling, intimacy, sexual confidence & self understanding. Not just that but my feelings during regular sexual experiences have increased dramatically too."

And 70 year-old Ed C.'s post confirms both the ability to experience multiple orgasms without erection and a perceived shift in his attitude towards women:

"Jack, I am 70 years old and have a problem with impotence. I have tried the Key Sound Multiple Orgasm Trigger for 3 weeks and it is working great. I have never experienced anything like this in all my life! The experience also evokes an extremely strong emotion of empathy with the tender, maternal, and nurturing nature of women, as opposed to a purely sexual aspect."

FACT #3: Orgasm (an automatic response) is only indirectly a function of stimulation (a consciously initiated activity). In fact, orgasm is primarily the result of arousal ("arousal" being an automatic response to stimulation).

When we realize this fact, we can begin to identify and distinguish between the activities which set the stage for triggering the male ejaculation reflex versus those activities that this author has determined will consistently trigger the spontaneous rushes of intense pleasure that constitute the multiple orgasm reflex, as distinct from the ejaculation reflex, in both men and women.

Activities leading to triggering ejaculation

Activities leading to triggering multiple orgasm without requiring ejaculation control methods

Patterns typically learned from childhood

  • Mostly continuous, often vigorous stimulation.

  • Tendency toward rapid shallow breathing.

  • Tension from this breathing pattern tending to accumulate in the upper chest.

  • Amplification of experience by more stimulation.

  • Frequent inclusion of erotic fantasy, often felt necessary to go "all the way" to ejaculation.

  • Belief that erection is necessary for orgasm to occur.

  • Tendency to hold the breath as the so-called "Point of No Return" approaches.

  • Muscular tension, especially in the legs, and possibly abdominal area.

Learning how to open to multiple orgasms

  • Breathing is slow with emphasis on complete relaxation. One soon discovers that arousal actually builds more quickly when breathing is deep and slow, rather than when it is rapid and shallow.

  • Uses almost no stimulation, only enough to produce even the slightest automatic pleasurable response to the erotic touch or caress.

  • Then amplify this automatic response, for example using a method originating in 1993 (that includes using a specific sound plus a simple breathing technique) known as the "Multiple Orgasm Trigger™" discussed at the www.multiples.com website.

  • Savor the automatic "waves" and "rushes" of increasing erotic pleasure as you...

  • Repeat the process, without rushing or lapsing into the other (ejaculation-triggering) behaviors listed in the column to the left.

Characteristics of male orgasm with ejaculation

Characteristics of multiple orgasm without male ejaculation

  • Orgasm occurs nearly simultaneously with ejaculation, although it may often occur a little after emission of semen begins, hence the insufficiency of the so-called "withdrawal technique" as a birth control method.
  • Ejaculation occurs after activity begins, on an average of anywhere from a minute or less in cases of premature ejaculation, to approximately 20 minutes, plus or minus.
  • Most men experience a "refractory" period after orgasm accompanied with ejaculation, and have no- or only minimal ability to re-experience erotic response including erection and ejaculation for on average 15 to 30 minutes or more, depending on many factors, including male hormone levels.
  • Men frequently report feelings of "emptiness" and/or a sense of minimal to less-than-complete erotic satisfaction.
  • These feelings may tend to reinforce feelings of sexual insufficiency, chronic dissatisfaction, and resentment towards towards women due to their multi-orgasmic capacity.
  • Orgasms can occur completely independent of ejaculation, while orgasms that do occur with ejaculation are consistently reported as being more intense and more deeply satisfying than prior to learning how to use the Multiple Orgasm Trigger™.
  • Orgasms may continue for hours, energy and choice permitting, yet may still be followed by orgasm accompanied by ejaculation with the new levels of satisfaction as noted above.
  • The multiple orgasms continue as long as the man wants them to, with no refractory period, since no ejaculation has (yet) occurred, until chosen.

    Even when a man takes a "rest break" during this multi-orgasmic experience (as long as ejaculation has not yet occurred), he tends to remain highly responsive, and is usually able to continue whenever he likes, and for as long as he likes.
Reports posted at this author's website by men and women using the Multiple Orgasm Trigger™ method are highly consistent. Nearly to a person, they report:

Enjoying much greater levels of arousal throughout their entire body, rather than just in the genital area.

Levels of arousal and sexual enjoyment that are notably more satisfying than they'd ever experienced prior to beginning practice of the protocol.

Men frequently report a surprising release of a certain (often previously unconscious) resentment towards women.
They consistently report their sense that it's because they now know by their own multi-orgasmic experience that they too can enjoy all of the orgasmic satisfaction they want, even culminating if they so choose with an ejaculatory orgasm that is far more intensely pleasurable than almost any prior to beginning the practice.

Women report, in addition to levels of often unprecedented satisfaction similar to that reported by men, that they no longer have to "reach" for their orgasms (where "reaching" often means, for example, using more or less vigorous stimulation of the clitoral area. This usually results in orgasmic release that feels fairly localized in that area, with a notably less sense of deep satisfaction).

FACT #4: For nearly all men, some degree of erection has in most instances seemed necessary to experience orgasm (seemingly linked irrevocably to ejaculation).

If a man or woman has been taught to believe the culturally-reinforced myth that orgasm accompanied by the self-limiting process of ejaculation is the only form of orgasmic release that is available to a man, a certain despair, and perhaps even feelings of shame and inadequacy of never really being able to satisfy or be satisfied can set in, not only in men but also in women who love men and want to be loved by men. This may result in a whole raft of emotional and social consequences, including but certainly not limited to shame, guilt, and a chronic, seemingly unidentifiable resentment towards one another. This often takes the form of male resentment towards women's alleged inevitably superior orgasmic capacity.

But as seen by the table above and the representative comments just following, erection and/or ejaculation are not necessary in order to experience and even share with a partner continuous orgasmic waves, lasting from tens of minutes to hours, for both women and men. An erection may or may not develop as multi-orgasmic feelings begin or at any time during continuous multiple orgasms.

For many people, these ideas may seem unfathomable. However, we have a set of positive and consistent reports in which a growing number of men and women attest to this new experience.

We may therefore resummarize fact #4 in this way: Erection may or may not be present at the time of male orgasm.

Erection is simply not necessary in order to experience (and share!) even very intense waves of orgasmic pleasure.


CONCLUSION:

Until now for the most part, full-body multiple orgasms with no holding back has for most men and women seemed just fated not to be. And for many men it may even have seemed genetically out of reach! This is a component of the sexuality mythology that has been part of culturalization for most of us.

But now, instead of men needing to use a method that is:

  • disruptive and distracting from the natural human flow,
  • based on modulating more-or-less-continuous stimulation, then "hovering" in some way just "this" side of full ejaculatory release,
  • and frequently requiring "last moment" PC muscle tensing, breath-holding, and/or other forms of energy blocking,

they, as well as women, may now access a culturally demythologized protocol which:

  • is based on minimal stimulation,
  • does not require male erection, nor male ejaculation... yet there is no need to try to block or control the ejaculation reflex, which is not even present when following this new protocol,
  • eliminates any experience of having to "reach" for orgasm via rapid continuous stimulation, regardless of gender,
  • teaches you how to nevertheless amplify arousal to multi-orgasmic levels, regardless of gender,
  • and teaches you how to easily de-link male ejaculation from male multiple orgasm, WITHOUT requiring any last-moment strategies to suddenly interrupt the flow of lovemaking and "slam on the brakes" through PC or other muscle squeezing, breath-holding, or any other "hovering" or "ejaculation prevention" strategies.

Now, both men and women are discovering their innate ability to experience multi-orgasmically high arousal, feelings of greater intimacy, and a deeper sense of knowing one's erotic self and that of one's partner. For example, they report that:

  • Pre-orgasmic waves of pleasure, arousal, and full-body orgasms are noticeably better than they'd ever felt prior to practicing the protocol.
  • Orgasms often occur with or without male erection.
  • Whether or not the penis is erect, orgasms occur without ejaculation, yet without any holding back or squeeze techniques.
  • There is almost never any sense of a male-ejaculatory "Point of No Return" such as experienced with orgasm concurrent with ejaculation. In addition,
  • Women and men confirm that the multi-orgasmic experience is realized not through vigorous or even constant stimulation, relatively high muscular tension, and/or shallow, rapid breathing, but rather through minimal stimulation, and slow, deep, relaxed breathing, with muscles very relaxed, combined with a simple means of "pumping" the arousal without resorting to stimulation to do so.
  • They confirm that the Multiple Orgasm Trigger™ protocol, including a very special use of sound combined with specific timing of breathing and use of minimal stimulation, unequivocally can provide such amplification of arousal to personally unprecedented multi-orgasmic levels.

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