Sex and Love
How to improve your sex life
1 Be adventurous
Don't be a log in bed - stiff and wooden -
and don't stick to the same old routine. Sexual adventure can include all
kinds of things: talking dirty;
taking the initiative by rolling on top of him and getting into the woman on
top position then riding his penis fast and hard till he comes; dressing up;
having spontaneous sex anywhere that takes your fancy; and so on, and on, and
on.....there are, by the way, many more tips for better sex here and a
description of how women can
enjoy fully orgasmic sex here.
Men are ready for sex pretty much any time of
the day from the morning's wake-up call with an erect penis to the
before-sleep nighttime sex session, while women often have one preferred time
of day. So if you're a morning person, why not try sex at night? If you like
sex in the afternoon, try it in the morning. It's all about variety!
Most men are very visual. Whatever you think
of your body, he'll like to see it dressed up in sexy lingerie, and he'll get
aroused faster and harder if you tease him a bit. Act like a seductress for a
change, then suck his penis, fuck him and leave him breathless!
While most men like to lead during sex, from time to time they would really appreciate their partners taking the lead.
So seduce him when he arrives home, lead him to the bedroom, strip him, make him lie there while you suck his penis, then masturbate in front of him before mounting him and riding him to orgasm. He might be surprised, but he won't object!
Check out sex positions here:
Sex positions and techniques which is a Lovers' Guide
to Sex Positions - and then try them, one by one!
Whatever you think of men's sex drive (hopefully you appreciate it!), it isn't going away. And when you're horny, don't you get pleasure from rampant raw acts of lustful pleasure? Sure, of course you do. So now think of your male partner, who pretty much wants rampant raw sex all the time, and you begin to see things from a male perspective.
Thrusting his penis between your breasts until he comes is, for
him, something close to heaven. Look down, press your tits together, get some
lube in there, and let him get on with it!
At least one bout of uncomplicated sex keeps a man happy to romance and give you foreplay the rest of the time. You know what? Men really do like raw sex without all the lovey-dovey stuff - if not all the time, certainly a fair amount of the time. So get your lube out, look at him seductively till he gets the message, then let him put his penis in you and thrust until he comes.
It's not insulting to you as a woman (in fact it actually honors his sexuality), and while it may not be romantic, it will certainly give him great pleasure. I doubt you really understand how good it feels to your man when his penis is in your vagina. And don't just lie there while he fucks you - move!
11 Don't ever use sex as a weapon
A very bad mistake. Decent men don't do this, and women only do it because they believe they lack power elsewhere in the relationship.
That's probably not true, and even if it has some truth in it, using sex to retaliate is the wrong answer. Few things are more alienating to a man than manipulative feminine strategies. And this is the worst of them.
12 Men like to be respected and appreciated
And women like to be cherished. You stand a great deal more chance of getting that from him if you tell him what a good lover he is and behave as though you respect him.
Even if he needs to improve his sexual skills, there are ways of telling him that will make him want to do it better, and ways of telling him that will make him think you are criticizing him.
And if you insult his penis, you'd better remember before you do it that he's known his penis longer than he's known you. Also - don't blame him if he displays a lack of staying power in the bedroom.
Arguing is only going to make him feel worse. Instead, to help him last longer in bed without shame, try finding a suitable premature ejaculation treatment program and help him go through the exercises.
This is really the only way to stop early ejaculation. A good treatment for premature ejaculation should have massive effects within weeks.
13 Be assertive
Ask for what you want during sex in a straightforward way and he'll respond much better than if you pout or whine. Take it from me, most men would much rather their partner had a lot more male-type energy alongside her female energy.
Among other things, this means
asking for things straightforwardly, not playing games, and being assertive
and energetic during sex.
14 Deal with sexual dysfunction
Sexual problems are many and varied: for men, they consist mostly of erectile dysfunction and ejaculatory disorders, including delayed ejaculation and premature ejaculation.
Get some help with these problems, whether this is premature ejaculation or delayed ejaculation (the inability to ejaculate during sex), erectile dysfunction, or anorgasmia for women. In all cases there are effective treatment programs which will give you the means to solve these problems and become fully sexually functional again.
15 Women come first
If he comes quickly, and he can't improve his performance, then adapt. Get him to go down on you until you come, then make love. He (and his penis) will appreciate your swollen, wet and warm vagina, and you'll enjoy the post-orgasmic stimulation of your G spot while you feel emotionally connected.
Heck, you might even come again. this is a surefire
route to mutual pleasure in bed - and it's a way most men can understand and
appreciate if they're looking for a
way to please a woman during sex.
Remember that acting out your fantasy doesn't
mean it's ever going to become a reality. Keep it in the bedroom and respect
what he tells you - then tell him your own fantasies and act them out as well.
Having his penis in your vagina is probably not the best way to achieve orgasm for you (if you're one of the 75% of women who don't come during intercourse).
So don't pretend that it is. Get an orgasm before he
penetrates you, and enjoy the friction and fullness when he thrusts. If you come, it's a bonus.
You have no idea how important this is to your man. First, it feels unbelievably good; second, it means you accept him and the very sense of his maleness without reservation.
19 Try many new positions and keep novelty alive
Honestly, trying new positions is what makes a relationship stay passionate - you need a constant stream of sexual novelty to fend of boredom - possibly this is more true for men than women, but it's still incredibly important to both sexes.
The best way to do this is to use a reference manual like the ancient Kama Sutra or a modern site like this: sexual positions for you!
20 Keep your Kegels going so your vagina is tight
Men have a visceral response to the sight, smell, taste and feel of the vagina. They want to explore it with fingers, eyes and tongue, but more than anything they want to penetrate it with their penis and thrust deep into you - making you feel good too.
That's how a satisfying, mutually pleasurable sexual relationship should be, uninhibited and lusty!
For him, a lot of the pleasure is in the friction, so if you think you have a loose vagina, tighten it up with Kegels or keep your legs closed during sex so you grip his penis. That way sex will feel much better for him.
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Updated 23 February 2020