Men! Your lover wants an orgasm during your lovemaking!
Though she may not want an orgasm every time you make love, she certainly isn't going to be too pleased if sex ends when you've ejaculated, rolled over and gone to sleep!
The best way to ensure her sexually contentment is to make sure she's had an orgasm before you come. There are several sexual positions which are more likely to make this happen.
So, without further ado, here's our suggested list of
sex positions that will
let her get the pleasure she craves, while also making sure you don't miss out
on your orgasm!
Many women like being uppermost when it comes to enjoying sex - it's a position that allows them to move in the way that gives them the greatest pleasure, whether that's through clitoral stimulation or G spot stimulation.
She can move around much more in this position, and because she's in charge of her movements, she's likely to get orgasmic satisfaction.
She can either rub her clitoris against the shaft of your penis, grind it against your body, or lean back or forwards so that her G spot gets the exact pressure it needs to get her to orgasm.
If you can last long enough before you ejaculate, this is
the sex position that gives her the greatest chance of attaining orgasm during
(Female ejaculation is the subject of another
article - but basically, if her G spot is stimulated for long enough, and in
the right way, when she reaches orgasm, the fluid that collects in glands
around her urethra will squirt out during her orgasmic contractions.)
Of course, if she's facing away from
you, then you have the pleasure of watching her buttocks as she moves. But a
lot of men find this position, (when she faces away from the man),
uncomfortable because it bends the penis too much.
And men like the position too! Sex in the man on top position, with her legs bent upwards, her knees near her chest, allows for deep penetration and lots of loving feeling.
What's more, if you have a penis that curves upwards when it's erect, as many do, then sex in the man on top position will allow your penis to thrust against her G spot as you make love.
Combine this with a little
clitoral play, perhaps by placing a vibrator between you both as you make
love, and you have the best chance to
make a woman come we know of!
This sex position is called Churning The Butter in Tantric sex, and it can send her into multiple, ongoing orgasm.
Another variation of man on top sex is to try
eight shallow thrusts followed by one deep one. The shallow thrust should just
shimmer against her G spot, so don't go more than a few centimeters into her
vagina when you try this routine.
Best sex positions
Making love in this position is great because you can thrust into her while you kiss and hold each other.
To increase the chances of her reaching orgasm, you can give her a little extra clitoral stimulation. In any case, in this position your regular thrusting may catch her G spot in the way needed to bring her to a rapid climax.
It's also a
lot more exciting to be having sex in an unusual position and out of the
bedroom. The added excitement of this can help take you both to a quicker and
more powerful climax.
Some of the best sex positions are side by side and they are to get into, especially if she lifts her upper leg slightly while you push into her.
The best thing about this sex position is how good it feels - for both of you. You can reach around her, caress her breasts, and kiss back, while she (or you) can play with her clitoris.
Another great variation of this position is the chance to
make love on your sides while you face each other.
You can keep going for much longer in this position before you come, as there's much less pressure on your erection.
And, with the right attention, and perhaps a
helping rub on or around her clitoris, she will reach orgasm before you do, so
you can have the pleasure of being triggered into your own orgasm by feeling
her coming around your penis inside her vagina.
But many like it too, and there are plenty of reasons why.
It allows deep penetration, it allows her to express her sexuality to the full, letting her thrust and ride her man as she wishes, and, above all, it hits her G spot!
Rear entry sex is very primal, especially if you hold her hips and guide her movements. If she raises or lowers her hips, you'll get a lot of variation in sensation - so you can find the exact position that gives you both the greatest pleasure.
Before we move on, let me remind you that many women have trouble reaching orgasm during intercourse. There are ways you can deal with this, and reach orgasm during intercourse.
If you are a woman who has not yet had an orgasm, then this website may be helpful in helping you to become orgasmic especially if you are pre-orgasmic.
For men who have difficulty reaching orgasm and ejaculating during sex, there are self-help programs for retarded / delayed ejaculation treatment which can have you fully orgasmic and ejaculating normally during sex in no time.
There you are, then: a series of sexual positions which give you a chance of the woman's orgasm during sex. But if you're the man, and these positions don't help her reach orgasm on their own, don't worry.
Make sure sure she has her orgasm from oral sex or masturbation before you enter her, and you'll both be able to enjoy sex to the full.
Updated 23 February 2020